I recently found a blog I loved. It was called “weird, unsocialized homeschoolers.” I actually don’t even remember much that was on the blog, but I just thought that was a brilliant title.
Because it’s just better to get it all out on the table.
I’m considering homeschooling. AKA: I’m weird/unnaturally attached to my kids/scared of the real world/just plain nutso.
Maybe one day I’ll get better at saying, “Actually, I’m thinking I’d maybe like to try homeschooling,” without looking sheepish and scared and like I’ve killed someone and hidden them under my couch cushions.
The truth is, I’d like to homeschool. (Always have, since Sam was the size of a cantaloupe in my belly and I was trying to get my husband to help me decide on a curriculum. He wanted to wait…weirdo.) But at the same time, I am tentative about these plans.
None of my close friends currently homeschool. Very few are considering it. It scares me that so many people I respect choose private, or public, or charter school. I don’t want to be the dumb one, to do the wrong thing.
I don’t want my kids to be awkward, or disrespectful, or…behind?
I don’t want to homeschool out of weakness, but out of strength…Not because I’m scared of residual peanut butter (although I am, to death) or because I can’t bear to imagine eight hours in a row without my boys (although I can’t) or because I just want my kids to be my kids forever (although I do).
I’m sort of rambling. Underneath all these (bad) reasons, there are good ones.
- I was a teacher, and I know how much wasted time there was in school.
- It excites me to think of all the fun things I could do with my kids.
- I know that boys need to move, to build, to run, to take breaks…I’m excited about being in charge of our days and meshing schoolwork and life.
There is this vision in my head of our days – building things, doing experiments, reading, making friends, exercising, discussing, traveling…I see how it might be and I’m so curious to try it.
But just so you know, I do realize that there’s a good change on day three I’ll be back here, bemoaning how I’m sick of my kids and I’ve made a terrible mistake.
We’ll see.
In the meantime, I’m slowly formulating a plan for Sam’s kindergarten year. Here it is so far:
Math: Math U See curriculum. Each day is a 10-minute video explaining the day’s concepts, in ways that, apparently, enlighten most moms for the first time. What’s not to like about that??Utilize Classical Conversations to help Sam memorize facts in history, Latin, English grammar, geography, math, science, and history timeline.Reading: Teach Sam to read using Rod and Staff Grade 1 Reading Booklets. (It says “grade 1,” but Sam will do the 4-5 kindergarten next year, for his pre-K year.) I also plan to use the “Bob” books, which you can purchase on Amazon, or check out at the library. Or borrow from your sister when she buys them.Writing: Use Handwriting Without Tears for Letter Practice.Bible: I don’t know. I think we’ll do some Bible memory work. I don’t know what else. Suggestions anyone?Science: If Sam attends a local Classical Conversations class, he will do a science experiment each week. In addition, I think I’ll just make up a list of interesting science topics and we’ll get books from the library and watch youtube videos on that subject. Does that sound horrible?History: In addition to the history facts he’ll memorize in Classical Conversations, we’ll read “The Story of the World” book one. I just love reading those. They are great!Geography: I’ve heard good things about “Legends and Leagues” curriculum.Music. Todd is going to teach Sam guitar. I think it will require more patience than either of them has ever needed in his life.
update: We chose Sonlight Curriculum and “Sing, Spell, Read & Write” for kindergarten. Couldn’t be happier. Post coming later.
And now, for the most important question: How am I going to get my kid socialized?
I loved this article I recently read (“Why My Kids Will Never Be Socialized” – but it’s not what you think) on socialization and homeschooling.
In all seriousness, though, it is a concern of mine. I think it’s the biggest obstacle I see so far. Not insurmountable, but definitely an issue to address. Here are my plans to provide social activities for Sam:
- Have him playing at least two, maybe three, community sports each year.
- Make attending Sunday School and Children’s Church a priority, and to participate as much as he can in church kids’ stuff.
- Do Boy Scouts as soon as he can.
- Attend a co-op with kids that he likes. If not Classical Conversations, then I’ll find another one. If I can’t find another one, I’ll start one.
- Together, interact with those we meet in our daily lives. Chat with the librarian, the guy fixing the fence, our neighbors, the lady at the store, blah blah blah.
So there you have it. I’m sure if you’ve homeschooled for millions of years you are laughing at my perfectly laid plans and thinking I’m in for quite the shock. And you’re probably right.
Have you ever tried or considered homeschooling?
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Marni says
I just found your blog and really loved this post! I felt so much of these same emotions five years ago when we began our journey. I am a former teacher and resigned to be a stay at home mama to three boys. We are a homeschooling, Classical Conversations going family. My middle son, age 7, has a severe peanut allergy along with many other random food and environmental allergies. He also has asthma, ADHD and eczema. My youngest son also has eczema and I am on pins and needles wondering if he has food allergies too. So far so good. I am so grateful to have the opportunity to educate our boys in a “boy friendly” and and Christ centered way. I know I would be a wreck worrying about residual peanut butter too. 🙂 Thanks for being so transparent and honest! I look forward to reading and exploring your blog.
jessica says
Wow – we do sound a lot alike! I am actually leaning towards CC as well! It’s nice to hear a positive recommendation. Thanks for saying hi!
Michelle says
Hi, Jessica! I just stumbled on your blog through Pinterest. I read the article “Are you a #momaddictedtotechnology?” and was feeling especially challenged after reading a linked post to the “ARE YOUR SUNDAYS MISSING REST & FREEDOM? TAKE THE SUNDAY CHALLENGE WITH ME” article. I feel like my iPhone truly is a form of escape everyday, and I’m glad to know I’m not the only one. I’m a former English teacher myself and am currently working from home for a virtual academy, so my days are hectic as I try to balance being a mom to a 2 1/2 year-old and maintain a full-time job and home and husband and pets and time for myself. I wouldn’t trade it for the world, though! We are a fledgling homeschool family ourselves and are currently using Hands On Homeschooling (http://www.handsonhomeschooling.com/) and enjoying it immensely. I feel like I identify so closely with your comments about being “weird and unsocialized” and LOVE that blog you mentioned!! At any rate, I noticed you had said that you were hoping to get your little guy into Boy Scouts–something we had briefly discussed as well. That changed when I met some families in a Christian group called Keepers and Contenders (http://www.keepersofthefaith.com/). It immediately piqued my interest because it seemed like the perfect balance of both the scout life and the values and morals we as Christians are called to uphold. I’m not sure where you live, but just check out the link to the Club Locator on the KOF homepage. We seriously haven’t gone any further than just looking at the website so I can’t tell you what the experience is like, but I thought I’d throw it out there for you! I ‘liked’ your page on Facebook and will continue to follow your blog. Thanks so much for your honesty and for putting yourself out there to be a light and and inspiration to so many of us! 🙂 Blessings~Michelle
jessica says
Thanks, Michelle! Your comments were a blessing to ME! I hadn’t heard of KOF but I want to look into that! Thanks for sharing, and glad to have you reading along!
Micah says
Definitely go check my blog out….I did a 4/5 part series about this very thing…coming to homeschool!!!!! It looks like u have done your research!!!!! What are you waiting for?
Micah says
forhisglory2005.blogspot.com
I didn’t include the link, sorry!